Recently working with a client, we were discussing how we “show up”. We have learned and studied so much about good communication skills and body language that many of us have mastered the art of “listening” with our bodies. Bodies leaning in, head nodding, eyes fixed on the other person, yet all the while our minds are anywhere but that conversation. Or our thoughts are fixed on what we are going to say next, not listening to the words coming out of the other person’s mouth.Our bodies are there – we showed up, physically. But have we really showed up? Are our mind, heart, and spirit present? Really present?So often, we are replaying in our head the argument we may have had with a spouse, the traffic on the way to work, or the memo we just read. How different would it be if we really showed up – mind, body, and spirit? How would our showing up affect our communication…our connection and relationships with others…our leadership?How can make sure we really show up? Here are a seven of my favorite steps:
- Always start with awareness. Be aware that you are entering a conversation and want to move it to true connection.
- Be present in the moment. Turn off the distractions (literal and figurative).
- Be honest. If now is not the right time to focus on the conversation, reschedule it for a better time.
- If you find yourself wandering, fess up, and start again (the other person will appreciate your honesty).
- Suspend judgment. Do not anticipate what you think you may hear.
- Paraphrase what you heard. This will be a good check-and-balance to ensure you are on the right track.
- Be available and approachable.
I would love to hear your thoughts, how do you show up?All my best,Maria